Well hello dear ones! What a wonderful day it has been. Who said Mondays have to be bad days, anyway? I’d like to meet that guy and give him a much needed hug. On a Monday.
This is just going to be a little blurb about a recent decision I have made that is causing for a lot of confused looks on the faces of those near and dear to me. I’ve decided to wear modest swimwear this summer… meaning mostly one pieces, but maybe a high waisted bikini with one of those little flowy bandeau tops. (ya know what I’m sayin ladies?) When I say I bought a one piece in front of anyone, the automatic thought is either “must be for church camp” or “her parents must not let her wear bikinis” or the most bothersome, “must be because she’s self-conscious about her body.” None of the above is the reason behind my decision. It’s quite upsetting to me that people jump to these conclusions before even thinking about the fact that maybe a real live teenaged person would actually choose modest swimwear. It upsets me because I was one of those people myself not even a whole year ago.
As girls, we’re always trying to one-up each other and look like each other and keep up with the trends. The truth is, I think sometimes girls see modesty as stepping backward instead of stepping forward. We think that covering ourselves up takes away from our independence as women and our equality. Contrarily, I believe it does the exact opposite. One of my favorite advocates for modesty in the public today, Jessica Rey, once said, “Modesty is not about hiding ourselves, it’s about revealing our dignity.” (You tell ’em, Jes) I agree wholeheartedly with that statement. When you show the world every single part of yourself, leaving nothing but inches to the imagination, you are essentially ripping the respect someone had for you right out of their hands. When a man sees a woman half naked, he doesn’t see a woman. He sees a half-naked body. That man is not thinking for one second about her personality, her likes and dislikes, her taste in music or her taste in movies, her strength or her poise… he is thinking about her body. He is thinking of her as an object, not as a person. This isn’t even entirely his fault, either. That is just the way that male’s minds work. We don’t understand it fully, and we can’t, because we have a completely different brain. All we know is that when we look “hot,” we can get a guy’s attention; and when we get his attention, we have power over him. This is true, in a way… but it’s not a power that any woman striving after Jesus should want. You see, when you hold a man’s attention solely because of your body, that is not love but lust. I think so often we think that if we get a guy to look at us and think of us in that way, we will suddenly enchant him and fall in love and live happily ever after. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The kind of guys that flock after you at the beach when you’re wearing your string bikini are not the kind of guys you should be happy to have the attention of. If you are a woman after God’s own heart, you are a woman who wants a man who is a man after God’s own heart. God’s word says flee from temptation. Why would a man who is striving after God’s own heart flock to temptation instead of flee from it? He wouldn’t. He would run as fast as he could from that girl and look for one who is wearing clothes.
We blame guys all too often for the way they degrade women, but we never stop to think about what we are doing to them by choosing to put ourselves right in their faces. It’s like putting a chocolate cake in front of a fat guy on a diet eating a salad and saying, “you have to stare at this your whole meal, but don’t you eat it! If you eat it, you’re a disgusting pig.” But all the while we are shoving a huge slice of that cake in our pretty little mouths right in front of him. You see, girls, we are not objects. I will not be an object. I’m not saying if you wear a two piece you have no self-respect. I’m not saying that in the least! I just think that we as women of God should help our brothers in Christ out by wiping out as much temptation for them as we can. They have it hard enough with the women of the world, so why should we, as women of God, be another stumbling block for them? It says loud and clear in Romans 14:13, “Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.” Just food for thought. This is just my opinion, and I am asking no one to agree with me or take my word for it! I encourage you to read God’s word and see what He says about modesty and sin and everything the like. I just wanted to clear up anyone’s confused notions as to why in the world I have chosen to do this.
Thank you so much for reading, whoever you are. Shooting lots of X’s and O’s your way tonight.